To quote my hero Anthony Bourdain, ” Welcome to my world!” Venus went retrograde this morning at 5:28 am EDT . Uranus is on her heels, retracing his steps 25 hours later at 6:38 am EDT. On some level I feel afraid to leave my house. But hey, I feel that way a lot anyway !
Venus retrograde is a topic I have blogged about before because it’s an important cycle. I feel it very strongly, which is odd because my Venus is direct and remains that way even when progressed. It could be because so many of my ex partners come back to visit me either consciously or on other planes of existence. It could also be that Venus is the ruler of my 8th house of death and rebirth. In any case, when Venus appears to move backwards, memories and emotions about old flames come alive. With Uranus following a similar path, it appears that where love goes, lightening will strike.
Venus Uranus aspects or transits often produce the love at first sight effect. Just one glance and you never know what hit you. Have any of you been there? Great music, poetry, and films have been inspired by such a phenomenon. Often what may appear to be love is simply a powerful attraction of the electric variety. With Venus spending most of this cycle in Leo and Uranus respectively in Aries, we are talking fireworks! But do not do anything stupid unless you are willing to live with the fallout. These fireworks are quite exciting but very temporary and erratic. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!
This is not the time to go out and meet someone new or spend lots of money on Venusian goods like jewelry and clothing. This can be an excellent time to unravel any leftover issues with former partners and whatever else that’s preventing you from moving on and making changes in your life. When a planet retrogrades, it is less about the external and all about the internal. In actuality, life typically operates this way anyway, but we often forget and look to whatever appears outside of us to validate our worth. If you still prefer externalization to build up your self-esteem, now is a wonderful time to modify your thoughts and behavior. Inner change is easier with Uranus retrograde so assess what needs to be upgraded. Don’t delete any files yet or install new software. Rather, review what may be corrupted or incompatible with the best version of you.
Look to where Leo and Aries are in your natal chart to get more insight into how these transits can be best used to your advantage. My 2nd and 7th houses are affected so I can expect some activity with abundance and partnerships. Since it seems like I have Venus retro natally, I do not expect to be that surprised. While the players may be different, the emotions that get triggered are all too familiar. I have noticed this quite often and this awareness has confirmed for me that I was correct in ending some friendships and romantic bonds.
When I think about love and loss in particular, I rarely miss a beat. Whatever I dread will happen once I love again typically does comes to fruition. Or at least that has been my pattern. For example, after raising my cat Jasmine from a kitten to age 16, letting her go was excruciating. I never forgot the intensity of that loss. When I adopted Dexter, I said I would not love him like I loved Jasmine. It turns out this was true, but not the way I meant it. My love for Dexter was so much bigger, building on the love for Jasmine, but it did not eclipse that initial love. The loss of Dexter reminds me why I was so skeptical about getting another cat. I did not want to grieve again. It is a wicked catch 22 and the only way out is through.
My experience with my pets helped me see why I subconsciously decided to shut down my desire for romantic love. The pain and sadness were not worth the investment. Sometimes a break between involvements leaves me believing a new relationship would not cause the same suffering. But often my reasons for letting a relationship dissolve would re-emerge with someone new. Faulty soul contracts or inability to manifest better outcomes? I have no clue.
Matt Kahn repeatedly says that emotions even out when one begins to ascend. Perhaps this is why I am dealing better with Dexter’s passing than previous losses. The fact that I am pretty together after having lost what I loved most on the planet is astonishing. It is really a miracle that I am not curled up in the fetal position on the floor. Maybe I am evolving and/or the love of my community is holding a space for my healing. I do feel grateful that I am surviving this tragic sudden loss. While it does not seem fair, I realize that we do not get to control the lifespan of another.
While I am curious to see what shows up with these transits, I know that it is all about how I treat myself and raise my vibration. Sometimes the love we receive in relationship builds up in the soul and becomes a resource for future alliances. We shall see. I am grateful that I know myself better than ever and that I have become a more adaptable person. I really have no choice but to grow and adapt.
Thunder Island is an old song that once held special meaning for me. Frankly I forgot all about it until I heard it on the radio a few days ago. It is about a couple braving a summer storm on an island. It was popular during the time my family spent a month or so every August down the Jersey shore. One summer in particular a major hurricane was predicted to hit our beach during our vacation. While I recall our anguish over whether to ride out the storm or not, I do not remember if we went home and returned later, or took a risk and stayed.
What is important is the way I felt hearing the song again and reminiscing about my love interests down the shore. Thunder Island is a perfect metaphor in light of the Venus Uranus retrograde. It is often a place in my heart where unexpected openings wax and wane like the waves along any shore. During these tumultuous times it’s important to learn how to surf one’s inner emotional waves in order to arrive both safe and renewed on solid ground.
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Very appropriate for what is happening in my life right now. Some serious problems arose last week in a family relationship exposing strong cords that need cutting. I’ve been working through meditations on cutting negative cords and soul retrieval ever since. Good to know the planetary energy is helping me through this time! 🙂
Much love and light, Linda,
C
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Hi C, it seems like you are taking proper steps to solve the family drama. Some people really notice Venus’s movements, others not so much. I hope all will work out for the highest good.
Namaste, Linda
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Thanks, Linda! 🙂
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Here is a post about Venus retrograde in Leo. While the sign is different and Uranus is also moving backwards ( energetically), the content may resonate in anticipation of tomorrow’s Venus retrograde motion in Aries. This may tide you over until I share a new take on the goddess of love , justice, and values. Stay tuned and love yourself and others until then 🙂
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That was so very good. Your writing just gets better and better. I tried to make heads and tails of Venus Retro in my chart and have observed its manifestation in my life, and the lives of others. I have had 3 cats as an adult and the grieving was immense, well one just left us for another, but 2 passed. They are our companions and teachers for awhile. ❤ Glad you are coping better. You remain in my prayers.
Namaste
Sindy
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Thunder Island was new to me Linda.. 🙂 but I can take on board the pain and pleasure in a memory .. And I know now why I have been spending.. Not on me.. but a new garage door LOL..
Good to hear you are fairing better 🙂 Love to you xxx ❤
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Hi Sue,
Always enjoy when you visit me and leave me positive comments 🙂 Great music soothes the soul and can serve as a muse ( muse music) for blog posts.
love, Linda
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I totally agree.. it heals.. I have a CD to play me to sleep every night with soft meditation music.. works like a charm to send me off.. However this last week I have been waking up around 2am.. Deep disturbing dreams.. I visited Jamie’s post over and found the planets are causing havoc :-). 🙂
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The planets have been raising hell all year for some of us and the past 3 years for most of us, sorry to say. Lots of upheaval can lead to transformation, but it is rarely comfortable or pleasant. But there is always grace ❤
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I agree 🙂 ❤
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So glad you are coming through the struggle days… allowing your divine self to guide you through… It’s when we allow our Human self to be quiet and let go of our wants and control that we find ourselves being carried through… love to you this sunday xxx (I just remembered your email so I will go and reply now…) Barbara xxx
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Hi Barbara,
The struggles continue, but support and new tools continue to help me through. Letting go of control is not fun, but clearly the best approach. Hope u r well. Really looking forward to that email 😉
peace always, Linda
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Glad you are doing well, Linda! It is interesting what you say about love and pain, and I completely understand how they can be intertwined. I think sometimes it is about what we ask for when we begin a relationship. Are we asking for the chance to love? Or are we asking to be loved? In a way, I think if we can move into the first question it answers the second, but if we remain caught in the second, then the pain of change hits even harder. I also don’t think we can love deeply and truly without that grief that comes when circumstances and conditions change– that is not what I’m trying to say. But at the same time I think that as our love deepens and our personal experiences of it become windows into the universal presence of Love, the grief becomes a window into the presence of Love as well… This is what I meant last time about the sweetness that emerges, the knowledge that Love hasn’t left us alone, and never will, but a particular form has shifted… a gift we can so deeply appreciate…
Much Love
Michael
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Hi Michael,
I enjoyed reading your comment and will reply with a response once I am able to muster up the energy. Just wanted you to know I really appreciate your comments and our discussions of these matters.
peace, Linda
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Beautiful post, Linda. I applaud you for the courage to dive back into a pet relationship after your first loss. I haven’t accomplished that Yet. You are becoming an old pro, surfing the waves of Love. I’m sure there will be another furry friend to love in your future. And thank you for the memories associated with Thunder Island. I thought no one else ever heard of that song! Can you believe I still have the 45? 🙂 As for the transit, I will have to climb out from under the rock I’ve been living beneath if anything will come to be. I’m clueless when it comes to attracting attention! Best of Love-Luck! 🙂
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Thank you Renate! I loved loved that song and another Beach Baby . I have old 45s at my mom’s house and I bet 1 of these 2 are represented! Of course Beach Baby is corny but I liked the beat and it came out when I was regularly hanging out down the shore.
Regarding my bravery, I am one extreme or the other, very bold or very cautious. My chart will back me up on this. I honestly did not think I would ever want another cat, but I was in a space where it just seemed right. It is different for everyone. In this instance, I chose well.
As a Leo sun, I would think you are great at getting attention ( even with Pisces rising). Be who you are and embrace your awesomeness… I have a wait and see attitude 🙂
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Hey Linda,
Thank you for this very valuable information about Venus retrograde. So interesting! It all totally fits for me.
I am glad your grieving process is being manageable. I find that the more mindful I am during grieving, and the more in touch I am with really feeling the gratitude for the love, the easier it is. Really letting myself be 100% in the feelings makes me not only feel closer to the one who passed, but the letting go eases a little faster.
I like what you said about Matt Kahn. I really like him. I also think emotions level out as we age, and life experience has taught us over the years.
I totally get the catch 22 with love/pain. The depth to which we love is how hard the pain is at the loss. It took me 10 years to get another dog after my beloved Abina died after 16 years of total love. The pain was just too much. Then I got Rosie and thought, why did I wait so long. After her death, 14 1/2 years later, a puppy found me – who was probably born the day Rosie died. Somebody just dumped her at 6 weeks old by our house with her 2 siblings. So I am right back in love with another. Love just is.
Anyway, thank you for this post – for the information and the personal insight.
Namaste
Mary
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So glad my writing resonates for you Mary. Part of my motivation for writing personal posts is to convey healing messages to others. Sometimes I use personal stories to help describe astrology in action.
Namaste
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The past 30 days have been full of surprises…some on the plus side, others on the negative but even these do not get through my detachment. As for relationship…my eyes, ears and heart are open but it ain’t happening! The Universe is keeping me busy and so I admit to not throwing my energy or attention in that direction. Perhaps I am too detached to care! Ah well, as Maggie Muggins would say “I don’t know what will happen tomorrow.”
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Life as we know it has been over for years. This is how I see it. Life continues to rush by and brings so much new data and energy along with it. Detachment is healthy but the key is to be detached with an open heart. Or so they tell me? And u r right, tomorrow is a new adventure.
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