Catching Up

Greetings litebeings! It has been a good stretch since I posted anything, especially anything new. I have been working on balancing my life, and practicing self-care to increase my inner resilience. I am also working on  a guest post that is rather intense. I hope everyone out there is enjoying the change of season. It is an exceptionally rainy May in my neck of the woods.

Speaking of woods, here are a few photos from my latest trip to Longwood Gardens:


I have been re-vitalizing my meditation practice with a different type of breathing and adding chanting back to the mix. I recently learned that an extended exhale and the act of chanting help relax the vagus nerve, which plays a role in heart rate and digestion. I am also enjoying select lectures from the Hay House Summit, which is happening right now. I enjoyed an interview with Esther Hicks and a video featuring Caroline Myss. Check it out and discover an array of material on all things metaphysical.

Finally, I want to extend a Happy Mother’s Day to all who love and nurture others. Ceres the grain goddess is also a very maternal figure and while I do not have children, my prominent Ceres makes me an Earth Mother of sorts, particularly to those of the feline persuasion. Let’s honor those who extend affection, protection, and care to those in need to foster their development and well -being.

Even when I am away, my thoughts and energy are always with my readers, followers, fellow writers and all that connect with me at litebeing chronicles.

Namaste, litebeing

 

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INFJ at the Holidays?

Now in the thick of the holiday season, I am acutely aware that for many souls, this time of year is very difficult. Let’s look out for one another and also practice self-care. love to all ❤

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Happy Mercury Direct everyone! It may take a few days to notice a decrease in mechanical , electronic and communication glitches. Hard to believe 2018 is coming to an end, when I can hardly catch my breath. I have re-posted this “Holiday Classic” from the archives, hoping it will be useful to those who are in need of self-care at this time. 

Enjoy this re-tread and feel free to comment.

I was ready to dive into an astrology article including Taylor Swift, but she will have to shake it off just a little bit longer. I am sensing a need to write about how to navigate the holiday season with fun and a lot less drama. I have wanted to write about INFJs and HSPs ( Highly Sensitive People) for a while, and this seems to be the perfect time.

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I Just Have To Tell You

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I just have to tell you… ( in no particular order),

I miss you

I passed my three-month probationary period at work

 

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Many stories about magical flurries occupy my head

and my heart

WordPress is not cooperating today ( damn Mercury retrograde, tehe)

 

Last week I suffered a concussion

Today I drew the 2 of pentacles, yet again

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She was upside down, and while I am still new to this deck,

I acknowledged the message to take things just one at a time, and slooooooooooooooow down.

Please think of me and send healing energy as I continue to juggle and bounce back as best as I can.

Namaste

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The Road to Resilience

This is a guest post I wrote for amberskyeforbes.wordpress.com back in 2013. While reviewing my draft folder I discovered it and concluded the message is timely. Resilience is one of my favorite topics and is front and center in my consciousness today. I hope it resonates for you also.

Thank you Amber for having me as a guest blogger today. I want to share some thoughts I have about human resilience in the face of loss. Life is a series of continuous losses. After you take your first breath, you find your way on the path towards your final one. Our cells constantly regenerate. In fact, it is known that our bodies completely change every seven years. Typically people equate death with loss and sometimes use those terms interchangeably. Yet, loss is pervasive and incredibly universal. Here are some common losses to consider: loss of health, loss of youth, loss of innocence, loss of a relationship, loss of teeth, loss of weight, loss of physical strength, loss of vitality, loss of purpose, loss of  money.  Even if we live in the same home and work at the same building, our atmosphere is constantly changing. Quantum physics has proven that your favorite chair is really made up of energy particles that are not solid matter. Change, loss, regeneration, motion……. change, loss, regeneration, motion…… This theme is one of the few constants in the human experience.

So how do we cope when the human ego craves the status quo and desperately tries to hold on to what is familiar and safe? The first step is always the same ; acceptance. When one grieves a loss, it may take a while to come to acceptance, but once there, the path to resilience is within reach. Eckhart Tolle espouses that acceptance of what is will lead to inner peace. In his book The Power of Now , Tolle  says

Watch any plant or animal and let it teach you acceptance of what is, surrender to the Now.
Let it teach you Being.
Let it teach you integrity — which means to be one, to be yourself, to be real.
Let it teach you how to live and how to die, and how not to make living and dying into a problem.

The idea of non-resistance has been embraced readily in the East, but not as much in the Western world. However, the popularity of Tolle’s work , along with yoga, meditation, and mindfulness practices, has made this concept more palatable across the globe.

A receptive attitude towards life is also essential to the cultivation of resilience. To be receptive means to be open to new ideas and possibilities, even in the throes of pain and sadness.  It also includes the ability to look at situations in a new light and the awareness of a larger worldview. For example, deciding to move to a new city so that your partner can accept a new position may leave one feeling conflicted about giving up their current social connections and comfortable lifestyle. Yet, with a receptive attitude, one can see how this decision to support your partner may also bring them into alignment with a fulfilling new career path, nurturing like-minded friends, and awaken a dormant sense of adventure and vitality.

It is often much easier to make these behavioral changes in community. Community can mean biological family, family of creation, spiritual/ religious group, neighborhood circle, social media, or outside support system. For those who need additional support with the grieving process or making transitions, a support group or therapy group often can provide the community and treatment/support necessary to face the crisis in a healthy manner. I have worked many years as a therapist with people dealing with acute and chronic mental health challenges. The amount of loss and trauma many of these individuals carry is close to unimaginable. Often a history of abuse and/ or trauma is present in those with certain mental health issues, which can trigger substance abuse through self-medication. This choice can create more loss and trauma, along with the traumas inherent that many encounter in the mental health and criminal justice systems. The Mental Health Recovery Movement that is emerging in the US and Europe addresses these issues in a proactive , holistic, humane fashion. My work in a Recovery program gave me the opportunity to create and facilitate groups that embraces those values. I ran a Grief and Loss group that  gave the members the space to develop trust, improve communication, and begin the path to acceptance, forgiveness, and hope. We often examined ways to re-frame a situation in order to encourage attitudinal change and healing. We often discussed how we gained something positive in the wake of a loss. When a commercial began airing with the slogan ” What will you gain when you lose? “,  I began to wonder if the advertising firm was eavesdropping on our group!

I am not suggesting that resilience is inevitable, some people are genetically wired to be naturally more resilient than others. So perhaps there are those among us that experience less setbacks or regroup quicker from a significant loss. We all can make a huge impact upon our own destiny by increasing our awareness of when we need some form of treatment/ intervention in the face of depression, anxiety, extended grief, trauma, and difficult life transitions. Relief from suffering and recovery from loss is possible and there are many wonderful resources available. We all deserve the best possible life we can create for ourselves. Evidence of resilience is abundant both in nature and bustling cities, and everywhere in-between. Take a close look around you and you are bound to discover it in action.

Resources:

http://www.imhcn.org/

http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/

http://www.mentalhealthrecovery.com/

http://ncmhr.org/

https://netforum.avectra.com/eWeb/DynamicPage.aspx?Site=USPRA&WebCode=about

http://raysofhope.blogs.com/my_weblog/2011/04/resources-list-for-grief-loss-trauma-and-transitions.html

http://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577311523

http://www.amazon.com/Counting-Our-Losses-Reflecting-Bereavement/dp/0415875293

http://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X

http://www.amazon.com/Resilience-Things-Bounce-Back-ebook/dp/B006NZ7HQQ/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1370381672&sr=1-1&keywords=resilience

http://www.amazon.com/Resilience-ebook/dp/B009GEY7WI/ref=pd_sim_b_5

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April Update

Hello litebeings!

I am strongly led to get something out to you today. My computer is acting oddly, so if I am silent for a while, most likely I am in need of a new laptop.

Emotionally I am fried right now. Life is moving slow and fast concurrently. This defies understanding, so I will not even try. You probably can feel it yourself.

What I will do is briefly share how I am doing:

I lost a few pounds by eating less carbs.

I scheduled a colonoscopy. So what if it took 5 years to do so?

I am researching alternative healers and plan to use tax refund to pay for it. Let’s hope the person I choose is within my price range. Thanks to those who offered me assistance with this process.

I am walking almost daily whether I want to or not. It is about building momentum and a routine. This season with its glory has enticed me to go outside and be with the magic of nature. This Spring is dazzling and buzzing with activity.

I have resumed my meditation practice, courtesy of the Deepak Chopra series.

Here are some images I captured walking around my neighborhood in no particular order:

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It seems that when I do focus on 3D signs, they usually appear, especially those of the numerical variety.

I hope you all enjoyed this spring stroll and April update. I will write more once I am better grounded and my computer cooperates.

Namaste

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Interview – You don’t know a thing about me, well maybe?

On July 25th my interview was featured on Ky’s blog  kygrabowski Spotlight series. This was a very exciting time for me because it was my very first published interview. I am posting it here so that it can be seen by new readers or those who were on hiatus over the summer. Preparation for this interview was an incredibly personal and sometimes grueling process for me, so I hope that you find my occasionally verbose – translation – long-winded 🙂  answers interesting and informative. I welcome all questions and comments as I continue to become more authentic and transparent, moment by moment.

Spotlight

Here’s what Spotlight is about; it’s an interview that promotes you! It will feature questions that are formatted to your needs. Questions will be focused on your work, upcoming work and some personal [but not intrusive] questions for your fans to get to know you more!

Today features

Litebeing

1.   Tell us about yourself

My blog persona is litebeing, creator of litebeing chronicles. I grew up along the East coast and have lived in the Philadelphia area since college. I am a licensed Social Worker and have worked in Child Welfare and Mental Health for most of my career. Currently I work as a psychotherapist in private practice.  I have been fascinated by astrology since age 7 or 8 and was already giving astrological advice to my friends in sixth grade! Astrology and helping others has been a constant thread throughout my life. I started blogging about 6 months ago and absolutely love it! My trusty cat (and sidekick) Dexter is usually by my side. If not joined at my hip, he’s scrunched up in his fleecy bed.

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2.   How did you get into blogging?

I had seen the film “Julie and Julia” and identified with the lead character who was a writer that wasn’t writing. I was her; I knew it in my bones. I loved the passion she put into her blog and the film’s message really stayed with me. The seed was planted while watching that film.

Late last year while I was enjoying some of my friends’ blogs, I thought to myself “I could do this!” I was also experiencing some exciting changes in my spiritual journey that I wanted to share with others.

3.   What are the pros and cons to blogging?

Blogs are a great medium because you can get incredible exposure and potentially instantaneous feedback. That was a mouthful; I can be quite verbose when no one’s looking!  I don’t really see any cons to blogging, once you figure out how to format your posts and master the technical aspects. If you run out of ideas, the daily post from WordPress can be a great tool. I wrote a couple of daily posts myself and it was really a lot of fun!

4.   What kind of things that you haven’t blogged about do you want to blog about in the future?

I want to include more astrology, poetry, and transpersonal psychology in my blog. I will also expand on some of my mystical experiences in greater detail when the time is right. I don’t blog in a planned way, so I cannot usually say what will come next. I prefer to let the writing flow organically. I have recently added some of my nature photography and plan to take more pictures. As an extremely visual person, it is important to me to create a pretty blog. While I am quite an amateur photographer, I do have a knack for framing a shot. Adding my own images can enhance my stories in a way that is unique and personal.

5.   What do you hope readers understand about your blog?

That is it ever-changing and that I like to revise formatting and content to reflect my current state of mind or mood. That this project is a true manifestation of one of my life purposes, to simply write. Also that what I write IS true. If I am writing about something that happened to me, it really did happen. I look for authenticity in other artists and strive to live to that standard for myself.

6.   How did you come up with the theme of your blog and or what you will blog about?

I go by the name litebeing and created the blog litebeing chronicles on 1-11-13. I picked that date because it was the first new moon of the calendar year. However that is only part of the story. I have been seeing numerical sequences of 111 and 1111 for several months. I got the idea that these numbers come to me as symbols of hope and loving guidance. So it seemed appropriate to use 1-11-13 as the time to launch this new project. The name litebeing came from my underutilized twitter account. I wanted to use lightbeing and it was taken, so I chose litebeing instead. This name fits in with my spiritual journey. After a long dark night of the soul episode I realized that I wasn’t quite as enlightened or awake as I thought I was. So litebeing is a more accurate snapshot of my current state of consciousness.

The theme of litebeing chronicles is a glimpse into my everyday life, showing how the light shines through on a moment- to- moment basis. The light may vary from a tiny flicker to a strong ray to a magnificent rainbow to a blinding shaft of white light. The blog also chronicles my reactions to the cosmic weather. The reactions may be in the form of poetry, storytelling, art, photography, or simply musings. I occasionally veer off in other directions, but have remained true to the theme.

7.   Favorite blog post? Of yours and or someone else’s?

I am partial to my two ongoing series, Collisions and Returning HomeCollisions is a series on my personal tales of synchronicity and other mystical adventures. Returning Home showcases different mechanisms that can accelerate a higher vibration and inner awakening.  I also really like how my Calling All Angels post came together. It was fun to weave different elements of my life into one overarching theme such as Angels.  I also love reading posts about travel, art, dreams, film, altered states of being, astrology, mysticism, etc.  Authenticity in storytelling is very important to me. So reading about someone’s struggles and triumphs will touch me deeply if told from an authentic place.

8.  How do you figure out what you’re going to write about?

I see myself as a planner in general. With the blog, however, I have become much more relaxed. Ideas come to me as my everyday life unfolds. Now, I may see a film and decide I’ll blog about that or I may become inspired by another blogger’s post, but most of the time, stuff just happens and the wheels begin to turn.

9. What advice can you offer to people who may want to start blogging?

Have fun! Enjoy the process and don’t stress out about it! Get to know other bloggers. I like to check out the blogs of those who like and comment on my posts.  Often they become part of my beloved community. Do not obsess over statistics if you can resist the temptation. Use them as tools, but don’t get distracted. Focus on your content instead!

10. In your post Subtle Beginnings you mention you grew up without Christmas – did you celebrate something else?

When we were little, we would get Christmas presents under our beds. This was due to the Santa Claus factor. We always celebrated Hanukah, although my mother grew up with Christmas. I remember she enjoyed playing Christmas carols on the piano during the holidays.

11.  In the same post you talk about noticing things around you – what are some of your favorite things you notice in your life?

I am acutely aware of nature, especially while walking in my neighborhood. I also enjoy the randomness of songs on my car radio. Lately I have been looking at the license plates and stickers on cars in front of me while driving. I enjoy noticing signs and symbols of all kinds. Often signs and symbols hide in plain sight, just waiting to be discovered.

12.  In your post Silver Linings you speak a lot about your interest and past dealings with mental illness – have you always been interested in this topic?

My curiosity about life and people in general stems from early childhood. A class on Human Behavior in high school started me wondering about a career as a therapist. I learned about Abraham Maslow and self-actualization, and was very curious about human development. I also wanted to learn more about what Maslow described as peak experiences.  I recall doing a research project with a classmate on left-handedness.  We both were interested because we were left-handed. This project made a huge impact on me. I think that being different predisposed me to wanting to understand individual difference. My love of astrology and personality types led to a fervent interest in theories of personality.  I am just as fascinated about our collective gifts that coexist with the maladaptations.

13. Following the above question, what advice and or tips if you have any can you suggest to people dealing with these issues, things that can help them adjust their lives better?

If someone is feeling powerless or out of control regarding their emotions, thoughts, and/or coping skills, I would strongly suggest they reach out to someone they trust such as a doctor or alternative health practitioner, mentor, spiritual / religious elder or mental health professional. Sometimes it is easier to seek out a mentor or a pastor before a therapist or psychiatrist. What matters is that you know yourself well enough to sense when your own inner resources are insufficient. Asking for help is a strength, despite the multitude of opposing messages from society at large. I like Brene Brown’s ideas about vulnerability and am encouraged by this concept catching on in popularity.

14. Your post, a poem titled “The Wind.” is a very well put together post. What inspired it, and what inspires you to write poetry like this one?

Thank you. I was inspired by a loved one whom I was missing. He was traveling and I knew that it was likely we won’t see each other for a very long time. The film The New World reminded me of the differences and similarities between us. It also reminded me of the beautiful place in which we met. However this poem was not about a typical love story. It was about how a greater divine force can pull together two souls, and that the collision of the two can create a mystery and awakening that transcends romantic love.

15.  When did you discover writing?

I came into this world with a vibrant imagination. This gift has often been my saving grace. Writing early on became a vehicle for fashioning my imagination into a tangible form. In grade school my teacher noticed that I was good at building stories around our spelling words. I also was a strong reader and excelled at spelling. So you could say it was a perfect storm of good language skills and an active inner life.

16. How has writing changed you as a person?

My diaries in high school helped me survive some difficult years. I found a strategy for processing emotions and working out conflicts that I could depend upon. My journals are like old friends; reliable, comfortable, always there for you. I know my love of writing influenced my work with clients. I will often integrate writing into the therapeutic process, via journaling, affirmations, poetry, etc. I am fortunate to have had many clients come to therapy as lifelong writers.

17. What is your favorite part about writing?

After the ideas are set and the words being to flow….. I really love the creative process, especially when my intuition is informing my choices rather than my rational mind. I find it very exciting to integrate the flow of ideas together cohesively and with emotional intelligence. Writing is such a source of joy and can often have a cathartic effect for me.

18. What plans do you have for the future in your writing?

I am very interested in the intersection of mystical experiences and perceptual changes evident in psychotic episodes. Both states of being feature an altered sense of reality. I want to do more research into where the two overlap and where the two diverge. I am not even sure that discrete differences exist. My sense is that other factors strongly influence one’s judgment of and reactions to altered states of consciousness. Other factors would include one’s upbringing, socioeconomic status, ethnicity/culture, educational level, geographic location, and spiritual/religious orientation. I delved into some of this material in graduate school but there is so much more I want to explore. This could be my book!

19.  What kind of books do you like?

I really adore non-fiction and biography or semiautobiographical works.  When I was much younger I read mostly romance, classics, and science fiction. I truly enjoyed reading Dickens because his style evoked rich visual imagery. I am very visual in nature, so I prefer authors who cater to this preference. Lately I look for stories that offer inspiration and broaden my understanding of complex material. But please make them entertaining and unique so that I will keep reading! I tend to read many books at once.

20. What advice can you offer other writers?

I don’t have much advice to share except to believe in your creative spark, set a structured routine for yourself, and write for the joy of writing. Balancing writing with all of life’s demands requires more than good intentions. Please write for yourself first. I will never forget this high school teacher who harshly criticized my Three Act play assignment. She said that no one would be interested in my story but me! I took this criticism to heart and worried that my writing was not relatable. I think that I overcompensated by paying less attention to my gut instincts while writing. Eventually I realized that I write because I am a writer, not to please other people. Writers clearly want readers, I know this one does, but most readers are attracted to artists who can follow through with their vision. “Know thyself” and “to thine own self be true” are classic quotes because they convey wisdom and truth over the course of time. So striving to embody these ideals makes sense to me.

21.  Share with us some of your interests

I love reading, travel, music, drawing, being in nature, exotic food, walking and movies. I have recently rediscovered photography and am enjoying this amateur pursuit. I am also revisiting dream work by participating in two dream groups.

22.  What do you find is the hardest part of writing?

Staying focused. I tend to be pretty organized but can get quite distracted if I am writing while online. I also lean towards perfectionism so it is crucial that I know when to leave a finished piece alone. Blogging regularly is helping me become more disciplined in this area.

23.  What got you into supporting mental illness?

The philosophy of deinstitutionalization came into vogue when I first started out in the field. This is the notion that people with psychological or developmental challenges tend to thrive living within their communities, rather than being whisked away to hospitals and residential facilities. My work as a social worker and therapist evolved over the years and my attitudes are shaped by my work. I had some excellent supervisors and mentors along the way that influenced my understanding of mental illness. Yet I learned the most directly from those on my caseload. I discovered that the systems in place to protect people: child welfare system, criminal justice system, mental health system, often created more harm than good. The traumas people experience as a result of being incarcerated, committed to a psychiatric hospital, or living in unsafe, unpredictable, circumstances are often worse that those they may have ensured prior to being diagnosed.  This idea of community integration operates best when people are encouraged to focus on their entire self instead of an illness or disability. The alternative to the medical or pathology-focused model led to the creation of the Mental Health Recovery movement. Recovery focuses on holistic, empowering strategies and approaches to living based on the unique individual. The values include hope, meaning, and personal choice. This movement is alluded to, but not directly mentioned in my Silver Linings post. I wrote about the movement in my Guest post on Resilience for Amber Skye Forbes’s blog.

24. You offer counseling and astrology services; can you explain what that is all about?

I like to incorporate my astrology knowledge and my intuitive skills into my counseling practice. My objective is to help people develop and grow more into their true selves. We do this by working together in identifying and cultivating the innate capacities found in the natal astrology chart. I have worked with clients separately using traditional counseling techniques or astrological consultations. Yet I find that combining the two modalities is truly the best of both worlds. Astrology is holistic, non-judgmental, spirituality-based and person-centered. It is an outstanding approach for helping others with self-discovery, relationship issues, vocational counseling, addiction, low self-esteem, unresolved grief, etc.

25.   What can people expect from you if they receive this experience?

I provide an astrological chart based on time and place of birth and an initial chart interpretation. The client decides the focus and scope of the service. I can provide a one time session, regularly scheduled sessions or anything in between. I see the work as healing and transformational in nature, operating from strengths as opposed to deficits. People report the service as empowering, powerful, healing, often intense, and enlightening.

26.  What advice can you offer people if they want to do what you do?

I think that with both astrology and counseling, one must be born with raw potential. Education and training are important and will refine and expand one’s expertise and confidence, but astrologers and therapists cannot be manufactured. You have to really enjoy people and be incredibly self-aware.  I like to use my counseling skills when I practice astrology. Not all astrologers are counselors or therapists, but they can benefit from learning reflective listening skills. One must have the innate abilities like empathy, intuition, strong analytical skills, comfort with the symbolic world, and people skills to succeed in both professions. Evidence – based practices are very popular in the mental health profession currently, and will probably continue to grow in popularity. While I agree that practicing techniques that deliver positive treatment outcomes has advanced the field and improved quality of life for so many, psychotherapy is not purely technique-driven. Artistry is a large part of the profession and I certainly hope that creative people will continue to be valued within the helping/ healing professions.

27.  How do you market yourself?

Blog litebeing chronicles

Twitter @litebeing

Pinterest litebeing

28.  Promote your services in one sentence!

Let’s partner together to help you recognize, explore and manifest your possibilities.

29. What kind of observations do you make in your work? If you do.

Trust is essential to cultivating a therapeutic relationship. I see that many people hide who they are, especially from themselves. When trust has been developed, the road to healing becomes visible. True healing can begin as people find less need to hide.

Another common thread is the universal need for unconditional love. Most people want to give and receive love. At the end of the day, people want to be seen, heard, understood, and accepted. This desire to be truly known is universal and part of unconditional love. Astrological counseling is an effective way to help people integrate all aspects of themselves; to embrace the shadows and bring them into the light. With a strong inner foundation it is then possible to recognize and attract unconditional love into one’s life.

30.   What are you working on now?

I am focusing on my blog and expanding my astrology/counseling practice.

Be who you must

A few weeks ago I was driving to an appointment and the route was clogged with traffic. I was tired from this stressful drive. When I finally arrived at my destination, this old  familiar song comes on the radio – Part of the Plan by Dan Fogelberg. I have not heard it in many years and I felt compelled to sit in my car so I could listen to the entire song. It reminded me that all is well. It also reminded me that we are here to recognize and carry out what we love to do.

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I am an artist underneath it all. No thinking required, it just is… So grateful that I figured it while I am still alive. Not everyone does.  Dan Fogelberg is not on this plane anymore, but part of his legacy is the art he left behind:

Part Of The Plan

I have these moments all steady and strong
I’m feeling so holy and humble
The next thing I know I’m all worried and weak
And I feel myself starting to crumble
The meanings get lost and the teachings get tossed
And you don’t know what you’re going to do next
You wait for the sun but it never quite comes
Some kind of message comes through to you
Some kind of message comes through
And it says to you…

(Chorus)
Love when you can
Cry when you have to
Be who you must
That’s a part of the plan
Await your arrival with simple survival
And one day we’ll all understand
One day we’ll all understand
One day we’ll all understand

I had a woman who gave me her soul
But I wasn’t ready to take it
Her heart was so fragile and heavy to hold
And I was afraid I might break it
Your conscience awakes and you see your mistakes
And you wish someone would buy your confessions
The days miss their mark and the night gets so dark
And some kind of message comes through to you
Some kind of message shoots through —
And it says to you…

(Chorus)

There is no Eden or Heavenly gates
That you’re gonna make it to one day
But all of the answers you seek can be found
In the dreams that you dream on the way

In light, litebeing

Guest Post

I have a guest post today over at the blog of Amber Skye Forbes. The title is: The Road to Resilience. I did something a bit different – I write about my views  on grief, loss and how to thrive through a psycho-spiritual lens.  I draw from both my experiences as a therapist and the philosophy of the Mental Health Recovery movement. Please drop by and leave a comment if you’d like.

pink orchid , longwood gardens 2013 by © litebeing chronicles
orchid, longwood gardens 2013 by © litebeing chronicles

On another note, I am extremely close to 111 followers. Check the countdown at the right to keep apprised of my progress. The party preparation has begun , so stay tuned for the date of the actual event.  Fun and surprises ensue.  Thank you all for your support!

Daily Prompt: Silver Linings – Meet your Self where you are!

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I used to consider the phrase ” Look for the silver lining” to be a pointless platitude. Upon further consideration, I can now report that I have changed my opinion.  For today’s Daily Prompt, we are asked to  Write about something you consider “ugly” — war, violence, failure, hatred — but try to find beauty, or a sense of hope, in your thoughts.

Let me being by saying that the film The Silver Linings Playbook immediately came to mind. I am a therapist who has worked with many people who are diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, so naturally I would be drawn to this film. Then there’s Bradley Cooper…….  Next are a few synchronicities thrown in for good measure. Matthew Quick, the author of the novel, based the story in Collingswood , NJ. This lovely town is about five minutes or so from my childhood home. The film was shot in Upper Darby, PA, not far from my current hometown, Philly. In an earlier post, I mentioned I have eaten at the now famous Llanerch Diner, where a pivotal scene between Pat and Tiffany takes place. https://lindalitebeing.wordpress.com/2013/05/22/youre-like-epically-awesome-man-the-award/ 

What I discovered from watching the film and reading the book afterwards, is that Pat (Bradley Cooper) achieved his goal of finding his silver lining. He did not succeed in reuniting with his ex-wife. What he did do is reinvent himself and transformed his life. Through his friendship with Tiffany (Jennifer Lawrence), his therapeutic alliance with his therapist, and his refusal to give up, he forged a new path forward. While his past connections with his dysfunctional family and his ex-wife were challenging to transcend, his commitment to dancing, love of the Eagles and vision of tomorrow kept him focused. While disappointments and struggles continue, Pat discovers that he is resilient and begins to step into a larger version of himself.

Speaking of stepping, my attendance today at a debut performance for Girls on the Move Germantown 2013 was filled with a plethora of silver linings. Moving Creation founder Emily Nussdorfer explains the importance of this program:

Imagine the future of our communities if all our youth are supported to find meaning and purpose for their lives. Imagine what our future would be like if all youth have the opportunity and skills with which to build their life from that place of creative purpose. What interesting, innovative and fulfilling possibilities could exist in our world as a result! The current devastating statistics of youth violence, suicide, anorexia, bulimia, obesity, addictions, school truancy and drop out rates, early pregnancy and disease would be reduced to a bad memory.

Today’s performance was such a treat. Family, friends, and supporters assembled at Germantown Friends School to see a fashion show, step routine, poetry readings, and hip hop dance number. These five young women captivated the audience with their courage, creativity, emotional vulnerability, and luminousness.  I was moved to tears and grateful to be part of the celebration.

Synchronicities were also present for me today while sitting in that auditorium. I have attended meeting for worship a few yards away at Germantown Meeting. I had worked for many years at a program 2 blocks away in the heart of Germantown. The girls spent some time together in retreat at Pendle Hill, a sacred place I hold close to my heart. It comes as no surprise that so many connections abound. I have been a fan of Emily and her program for years. She is a wonderful soul who exudes enthusiasm and great love for her girls and their communities.

So in case you are wondering, how these stories tie together, the answer is presence. Both Pat and the Girls on the Move were able to put aside negative beliefs and social conditioning in order to start anew. They did not deny their history. They learned to create new beginnings by taking action in the moment. As a social worker, I was repeatedly taught to meet my clients where they are at. This basically means to accept someone exactly where they are and proceed from this point. I believe this practice is important if you want to transcend your limitations and create a new vision.  Meeting your Self where you are is likely to assist in the promotion of positive self-care. Combine self-care with a strong support system and an active spiritual life and the possibilities are limitless. (yes I know, another Bradley Cooper movie – Limitless) 

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So I now see that with some effort and an enlightened perspective, silver linings are quite likely to manifest. Add a bit of magic and creativity, and you are on your way……

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