The Cancer Rising Factor ~ Part 1

 

 

 

I posted yesterday and then took it offline. It wasn’t ready and that is okay. Eventually it will resurface.

Some of my recent posts may become part of a larger project. Stay tuned. This article is about metaphysical detective work with some Astrology thrown in. Since we are approaching Venus retrograde, the first installment will feature an event that took place during Venus Retrograde.

They say two incidents do not a pattern make. Well how about three?  I will go with three.

I will be sharing three situations including three odd encounters over the course of almost forty years. The common thread is that I experienced instant recognition.  I mean instant.  This topic has been a fascination for some time, but it seems more ripe at this time for exploration. All three people have little in common. Age, appearance, career, personality, all distinctive. They shared the same ascendant, Cancer Rising.

1 Rick the original

This the first profile of my experience meeting people with a Cancer Ascendant. I want to put out there that astrologically this should not add up. I have Cancer on my 6th house cusp and while, that relates back to my 4th house of family, I do not see this necessarily as significant. I have Mars in Cancer and I see this as Men at the Office or Work and GI inflammation. I certainly have the latter unfortunately. Sometimes the men contribute to the GI problems as well. But I digress.

I met Rick back in 1988 and my friend’s home. My friend who is also Cancer Rising is a spiritual teacher and was part of my spiritual circle of friends. One evening he invited a channeler to his home. I invited my sister to the event, e=which was rare. She was more open to spirituality at this time and we were closer. The event drew  al large group of people. I sat in the back. A couple entered the room and sat closer to the front. I could not take my eyes off either of them. The woman and man in some ways  resembled each other. I was told she was a local astrologer and was related to my friend through his sister’s marriage. I could not stop staring at the man. He seemed like he was sent down from Heaven. I will quote Claire Danes in the show ” My So Called Life” . He was so beautiful that it almost hurt to look at him.  A light or  glow appeared over both of them. A thought emerged ” I want to be like  her and I want to be with him.

I was part of of ACIM weekly  study group  around the same time at my friend’s home.  He also gave parties and showed videos a few times a month. I was over at his house often. Rick and his partner showed up again at one of the parties. I did not talk with them. I learned through another friend that she was president of a local astrology group and I was given info about the next meeting. This was a dame changer for me. I was going to meet more astrologers and hear a lecture. It seemed like a miracle that this was a thing. I kept seeing Rick , now showing up by himself. I knew he had a girl friend and I avoided him. I mostly avoided him because he made me feel so off balance. I was seeing Herman and some other people at the time. It did not matter because Rick was my type. He embodied the archetype. Not only that, he was spiritual. He was in the other ACIM group. He looked like a young version of Eric Clapton when he had long hair. He had such an unusual voice. People remarked how he sounded exactly like Sam Elliot. One of my guy friends would tease me. He knew I was crushin and he wondered why I did not approach him. I was too reserved and I wanted to respect his relationship. I began to attneding astrology meetings and became acquainted with Amanda. I was not going to mess that up.

A few months later I was told they broke up. I did not change my tune. I was not in  a better place with Herman but Rick was too special. I was intimidated by his energy. So I did what I am good at, passively stared from a distance.

Over a year later. the story changed. One evening during the holidays, I went to a party. Right after my arrival, the host pulled me aside. ” Linda , this is Rick. Rick, this is Linda. ” I was thinking that was bizarre. I knew who he was. What was going on? We started talking about nothing. The alcohol was flowing and I started to drink. I was very uncomfortable. He started asking me questions that were confrontational. He was very focused on me and seemed like he thought I was keeping something from him. We started arguing. My friends were watching us. He asked me what was on my mind. I was confused. He then said that if I didn’t speak up, it would be my loss. It was noteworthy that  I started talking Astrology with him. I mentioned I had Mars in Cancer. I do not recall why that was raised. He smiled and said ” I have Cancer Rising. ” I knew what that meant. I was in my 20s and was not exactly sophisticated.  Rick was the kinf of person who got plenty of female attention. There were plenty of beautiful women at the party. My Saturn Return was approaching and Venus Retrograde was stationing in the 12th house. It was a powerful time. I was very attracted to him and figured it must be obvious. But what did he want? I was tipsy at this point. I asked him if we could speak alone and we went to a room upstairs. I told him I was attracted to him. The alcohol was talking. This was not how I operated. I did not care. I knew that I wanted him since I first saw him so i had nothing to lose. Eventually a mutual friend knocked on the door. She was looking for him. She asked him if he needed a ride home. He told her that I would be taking him home.

He was quite a character. His home had swords on the walls. He had spent a few years in the military. He was very wise but not really educated. He was a Leo and acted accordingly. He told me there was something about me that he liked and mentioed a time we were participating in a group exercise.  This was months ago.  The participants were asked to hug whoever was next to them. So we hugged. He said there was something about my hug, my energy. It was weird at the time to hear. this. He showed me his astrology chart. That was a first in my dating pool. No one I knew had a chart of their own.

This relationship evolved into a friendship. We would hang out and talk on the phone. He said he felt very close to me. He showed up often in my dreams. I had a precognitive dream about him that was pivotal  It turns out he began sleeping with one of my friends in the ACIM group. He never told her about me. He said he did not tell her because I wanted out relationship to be secret. We both were very upset. This drama went on for months. I was active in the Astro group and eventually befriended his ex. She invited me on the board. Rick eventually moved away. The dreams continued as did some synchronicities. I told him we were connected. He discounted what I said. Rick was a musician, a poet and worked on construction projects or something like that. He seemed like a man from a different timeline. I decided he was the incarnation of  Hemmingway. An Italian version. I made up this story in my head that we met in 1920s Paris. I kept this to myself.

It turns out that my initial thought about this couple came to fruition. Both of these people became a part of my life. Rick obviously liked me but approached me in a passive aggressive Cancerian way. My association with his ex, who was a major figure in the Astrology Community opened some doors for me. I became friends with her friend Robert the psychic. I dedicated my blog to him.

Rick was such a karmic character in my story. I did not have the language for it but I knew both he and his partner from another time and place. This was soul recognition. I was not drawn to her in the same way. but I was in awe of her. Her sun was conjunct my moon so we had great synastry in that regard. She knew I had been with Rick and did not seem to mind. they were still friends.

At the time I  had not dated a Cancer Rising . It was not my preference. I found Cancer men to be weak and childish. However it did not matter. It was not love at first sight but it seemed to be adjacent.  We were not in love but there was a ‘ built – in ” bond. It never occurred to me that I would ever catch his eye. I was not the one that people noticed. Not at parties or social gatherings. It seemed like destiny.

Epilogue: I never met anyone like Rick before or since. We were not a great match and he was irresponsible. However my time with him proved very informative. Many years later I would meet another Rick. Both were in the Military and played pool. Both enjoyed arguing with me. Both had Mars in Libra, which squared my Mars, causing lots of energy. One still lives on Facebook. He seems happily married and apparently has turned Maga, His ex eventually left the area and moved back West.  She changed careers but is still known in the larger Astrological community. They are both very fiery, unique people who live on their terms. Things sometimes happen for me when Venus goes Retrograde, You are not supposed to meet someone new. You are more likely to reunite with someone from the past. That is exactly what happened.

In the next installment I will describe my next encounter with an older man I met in my thirties when I was attending Bryn Mawr. This was just as bizarre but played out quite differently.